The Blade
There are times when people are out to hurt us. It’s a sad commentary on human nature but there it is. People are not always kind, unselfish or even mindful in how they behave. Even people who are otherwise good, generous souls have moments in which they look for another’s most tender, vulnerable, soft underbelly and … STAB … it with the sharpened blade of callousness and spite.
Whether or not they regret it is beside the point. Whether or not they ask forgiveness is beside the point. They were able to come to the conclusion in that window of time that the pleasure they would feel in thrusting that knife in another’s raw flesh and twisting it meant more to them than the excruciating pain it caused.
They put themselves first.
But then there are times when we want to blame someone else because we are devastated, disappointed and wounded but if we are honest with ourselves, really honest, we realize the other person may have wielded the knife but we jumped right into its path. There comes a time when we have to take responsibility for the bloodshed being just as much our fault as the other person’s. We can't fall on someone else's blade and call foul. We need to remove ourselves from the potential danger.
There are times when we have to put ourselves first.
pain, relationships, self-preservation, wounds in About My Day 
Reader Comments (3)
Yay for putting yourself first! I need to be more consistant with doing that too. I do ok for a while but then I start putting others before myself and then I end up sad, angry, frazzled and desperate for help. Do you have a plan to keep you on track?
I think putting ourselves first is very important. Not in a slefish "It's all about me" sort of way, but in a way that lets others know that we are not doormats, and will not tolerate being treated badly. It takes work and many missteps to get there, but with the help and support of people who really care, we can all get there. I'm always here for your support and expect to be called out for weilding the knife if true. I love you. xoxo
Thank you for this. Could not have come at a better time. <3